Strong Women

My unsolicited advice to women in the workplace is this. When faced with sexism, or ageism, or lookism, or even really aggressive Buddhism, ask yourself the following question: “Is this person in between me and what I want to do?” If the answer is no, ignore it and move on. Your energy is better used doing your work and outpacing people that way. Then, when you’re in charge, don’t hire the people who were jerky to you.

- Tina Fey

Other great quotes from strong women here.

Attitude Adjustment

In my personal life, I’m a very positive person. Life is just easier with a sunny outlook. In my work life, this is something I’ve been struggling with. Lately I’ve been quick to get irritated, and my tolerance for other people is low. I thought I just needed a vacation, and I took one. But when I got back, I was still experiencing the same annoyances.

I don’t want people I work with to think I’m mean or rude, so I’m working hard on my attitude. Yes, it’s difficult to request the same things from the same people over and over again. And it’s difficult to be thrown a load of work at the last minute and told to handle someone else’s problem. I think I have every right to be annoyed by these things, but I don’t want annoyance to turn to anger, and I don’t want people to feel my anger is directed at them. (Even when it is.)

It’s Friday morning, and I’m already annoyed. So today I’m going to concentrate on keeping a sunny disposition. I’ll bite my tongue and try to have helpful, honest conversations with people instead of frustrated ones. And I’ll go home after work, have a great weekend, and come back next week refreshed and ready to keep the positivity going. I hope.

4 Years

4 years ago today Alex asked me to be his girlfriend. On that day I never expected we’d get to where we are today. I never imagined we’d be this strong, with our own home and little family, and the beautiful life we’re building together. I was 22 years old, I lived with my parents and I spent my free time partying with my friends. I don’t think I expected our relationship to be long lasting. I really liked Alex, but I didn’t have the best track record with relationships, so why would this one be any different?

But here we are. We’ve both grown and changed so much in the last 4 years. We’ve worked through tough, crazy times, and we’ve experienced true happiness and joy together. Through all the ups and downs, I think we’ve become exactly what the other one needs.

I am thankful for Alex and our relationship every day. When I come home, the chaos of life melts away and I get to be with my best friend. What more could I possibly want?

Alex and Jillian in Seattle